Have I lost my sparkling Mind???

clip_image002As I sit in my dressing room between shows admiring my gorgeous Asscher cut band ring I have to ask myself… “Am I losing my mind?” I am a diamond jewelry designer completely in love with these synthetic stones I now work with. Where is the girl who shunned the idea of Cubic Zirconia? Where is the girl who loved to play with real diamonds and said proudly that every woman should own at least one diamond because you’re worth it? Am I cheating on my “Girls Best Friends”?

I never thought I would admit to it to myself but Synthetic stones have gotten crazy good! So good I wear them with confidence right next to my diamonds, and the only fear I have is that they will magnify the imperfections in my real diamonds. I would be lying if I said I didn’t still sometimes feel a bit shy about this around some of my snobbier jewelry friends but maybe, Coco Channel said it best,

“Women should mix fake and real. To ask a woman to wear real jewelry only is like asking her to cover herself with real flowers instead of flowery silk prints. She’d look faded in a few hours. I love fakes because I find such jewelry provocative and I find it disgraceful to walk around with millions on your neck just because you’re rich. The point of jewelry isn’t to make a woman look rich but to adorn her; not the same thing”

And I have always know that Coco is a reliable source because she also said “I only drink Champagne on two occasions: when I’m in love and when I’m not.” 😉

Still what’s so special about the particular ring I have been fawning over in my free time? It’s a row of 8 Asscher cuts…AKA a style I die over but can’t afford to make in real. Why? Because Asscher cuts:

A.) Are super hard to find in the general market place, you pretty much have to cut them yourself.

B.) If/when you do find them they are crazy expensive.

C.) If/when you do find them and can afford them…. GOOD LUCK finding eight of them in a calibrated (aka matching) size to then set in a band.

What’s so special about the Asscher cut? Imagine a stunning 74 facet step cut that combines the elegance of baguettes and emeralds with the vibrant sparkles of all the brilliant cuts. Okay, just kidding you don’t have to just imagine it because it exists and is not only available in the super expensive diamond version but in the stunning AAA quality synthetic diamonds used in this ring I am obsessed with. It was created by the Royal Asscher Diamond Company, dubbed “Royal” by the royal family of the Netherlands for their bejeweled contributions to both the diamond industry and crown jewels. YUM!

imageDiamonelle 14K Gold Asscher Cut Anniversary Band

Girl Boss in the Boys Club

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Sometimes being in the Jewelry Industry is like being transported to the 1950s when women were good for typing, vacuuming and…..

If you are not sure what I mean, then clearly you have never been a young female on 47th Street. I encourage you to try it! It is somewhat like an obstacle course of sleazy marriage proposals and X-Ray vision checkin’ you out type look stare downs. Now before you start to place the blame on me or any other female with similar claims, I can assure you that I usually rocking some casual business wear and not some booty short crop top ensemble. Why do I dress like I’m going to the office when I am my own boss? Because I am a Girl Boss! (In a very Boys world).

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“OKAY So if it’s such a Boys world and you want people to take you seriously… why did you put ‘Girl Boss’ on your business cards?”

– Said No One Ever

Alright, so nobody said those exact words but a few of my closer male friends including my boyfriend have politely inquired and asked me if I was seriously going to put that on my business cards. And I am sure plenty of people think it. I was and still am serious. Why? Because lets be real:

  • I am 25 (strike 1)
  • I am a girl (Double Strike 2)
  • I have the audacity to start my own company (strike 3)
  • My company mission is Socially Conscious (Why are you even still swinging you are already out.)

And much to my own dismay, that my friends is exactly why nobody would take me seriously if I put:

Constance Palelei- CEO

Constance Palelei- President

Constance Palelei- Principle

Or whatever other fancy titles you can think of, that in my opinion people over use anyways (No seriously, check out Linkedin, it seems like everyone and their freaking chihuahua is the president or vice president of something or other.) Who would really take me seriously?

So rather than fighting the current, I chose to smile, ride the wave of condescension and build a name that nobody forgets. After all ‘Coco’ began as a  name that  patronizingly referenced her bar songstress past and she grew it to one of the most recognized brands in the world. (CoCo Chanel…. if you weren’t on the same page.)

Aside from the general cheekiness (which I always appreciate) there have been other benefits to the adopted job title/life decision. There is a sense of instant camaraderie from other women with similar experiences.

I recently started working with a female jeweler on 47th who came out to look at my job request and when she saw my card. she said, “I can’t tell you haw many times men come in here and ask me to speak to the boss. And I say ‘I am the boss’.” She addresses my returned jobs to: Constance P.- “The GIRL BOSS” and I have her in my phone as: Aimee- Boss Lady Jeweler.


My now attorney who also happens to be under 30, own her own practice and be very very pretty, shared with me that at an attorney’s networking event a man came up to her and asked if she had been invited by someone. When she replied yes he then proceeded to ask her if she was thinking about attending law school. As she informed him, “No, I am a practicing attorney.”

He proceeded to make the “Aww…” sort of sound people googoo gaga at babies and puppies and then follow up with “That’s cute!”


……… Obviously, it is not a completely unique experience to the jewelry world. However, I know have heard some real winners. What’s your Girl Boss in a Boys Club story?

*Oh yeah and if you haven’t read #GIRLBOSS yet…. Do it now. For Real.