Have I lost my sparkling Mind???

clip_image002As I sit in my dressing room between shows admiring my gorgeous Asscher cut band ring I have to ask myself… “Am I losing my mind?” I am a diamond jewelry designer completely in love with these synthetic stones I now work with. Where is the girl who shunned the idea of Cubic Zirconia? Where is the girl who loved to play with real diamonds and said proudly that every woman should own at least one diamond because you’re worth it? Am I cheating on my “Girls Best Friends”?

I never thought I would admit to it to myself but Synthetic stones have gotten crazy good! So good I wear them with confidence right next to my diamonds, and the only fear I have is that they will magnify the imperfections in my real diamonds. I would be lying if I said I didn’t still sometimes feel a bit shy about this around some of my snobbier jewelry friends but maybe, Coco Channel said it best,

“Women should mix fake and real. To ask a woman to wear real jewelry only is like asking her to cover herself with real flowers instead of flowery silk prints. She’d look faded in a few hours. I love fakes because I find such jewelry provocative and I find it disgraceful to walk around with millions on your neck just because you’re rich. The point of jewelry isn’t to make a woman look rich but to adorn her; not the same thing”

And I have always know that Coco is a reliable source because she also said “I only drink Champagne on two occasions: when I’m in love and when I’m not.” 😉

Still what’s so special about the particular ring I have been fawning over in my free time? It’s a row of 8 Asscher cuts…AKA a style I die over but can’t afford to make in real. Why? Because Asscher cuts:

A.) Are super hard to find in the general market place, you pretty much have to cut them yourself.

B.) If/when you do find them they are crazy expensive.

C.) If/when you do find them and can afford them…. GOOD LUCK finding eight of them in a calibrated (aka matching) size to then set in a band.

What’s so special about the Asscher cut? Imagine a stunning 74 facet step cut that combines the elegance of baguettes and emeralds with the vibrant sparkles of all the brilliant cuts. Okay, just kidding you don’t have to just imagine it because it exists and is not only available in the super expensive diamond version but in the stunning AAA quality synthetic diamonds used in this ring I am obsessed with. It was created by the Royal Asscher Diamond Company, dubbed “Royal” by the royal family of the Netherlands for their bejeweled contributions to both the diamond industry and crown jewels. YUM!

imageDiamonelle 14K Gold Asscher Cut Anniversary Band

The Sound Track of Late Summer Sparkle ;)

As I design or prepare for shows, I always like to have a playlist to kind of set the tone for what I am doing. The genres vary but the content is generally the same. “I’m a girly girl who LOVES pretty things.” Sometimes, I’m fierce about it and other times I’m coy 😉 …… but this late in the summer I’m usually a little lazy but still my quirky self…. So on that note, here’s my spotify list as of late:

What are you playing?

#GoldSnob

Last Friday was a blast!  I got to go on ShopHQ to debut Essante, which is a new project I  have been working on since November. It is always good to see projects finally come to fruition and get off the ground.
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The best part was definitely during the second show. Our producer Tim, told us we had a caller that he was going to patch through. Honestly, my heart skipped a beat because, I didn’t know what to expect and I have seen callers go very very very wrong, like talk about dead people wrong. Which is scary because everything is completely live. It isn’t like a reality show that they edit for months or an award show with a slight time delay. THIS IS LIVE TV. AS it turned out the caller was a woman from PA named Sheryl (forgive me if the spelling is wrong) and she was amazing! She understood our mission so well and even called herself a Gold Snob. Brilliant. I told  her on air I was going to make it a hashtag and I wasn’t lying. I think from here on out I will refer to all my Essante customers as #GoldSnob s.
Do you think my friends/customers would be offended to receive Holiday Cards that began:
Dearest Gold Snobs,
         I am sure you are the envy of every party this holiday season in your glowing Essante. Thanks for always snobbing around with me. I love you and can’t wait to share more Golden Snobery with you next year!
Love,
Constance
P.S. You are very welcome for all of my hard work. 😉
Hahaha. With any luck everyone will come to know my sense of humor and this won’t be too far off. I mean hey a girl can dream right!?
Anyways, Thank you so much if you were able to tune in or peruse the collection online!
❤ Constance
WHAT I WORE:
I got a couple inquiries as to what exactly I wore on air and you are in luck because there are still some limited quantities available and there are links in the images. You could also click here to view the whole collection or what is still available at least.
#GoldSnob (The Original)

The Ring

Grandma’s got her Eye on You!

Grandma

Yesterday I was flying back from Minneapolis and had a really sweet chatty skycap. He asked me what I was doing in Minneapolis that I only came for one day. I said work and then he asked what I do. As soon as I told him I was a Jewelry Designer he lit up and showed me his ring. (This is one of the things I love about what I do. It allows people to open up and share a little part of their story with me.)

He began telling me of how when his grandmother passed he received one of her brooches which had several diamonds in it. He glowed as he told me that he took the largest one out and gave it to his wife. Knowing he wanted to keep a little piece of his grandmother with him all the time he kept the rest for himself. He told how he had played around with the stones for many months and was finally inspired to create a rings with an eye on it because, “They always said Grandma’s got her eye on you!”

#Gemstalking

Girl Boss in the Boys Club

[DISCLAIMER: The following post is only a small percentage jewelry and does not feature the usual dosage of sparkle. It also may be perceived as highly feminist, boy bashing, not feminist enough, or just plain boring. Viewers not concerned with personal banter and rationalization should discontinue viewing immediately. Readers agree to risk wasting time and will not be compensated or reimbursed.]

Sometimes being in the Jewelry Industry is like being transported to the 1950s when women were good for typing, vacuuming and…..

If you are not sure what I mean, then clearly you have never been a young female on 47th Street. I encourage you to try it! It is somewhat like an obstacle course of sleazy marriage proposals and X-Ray vision checkin’ you out type look stare downs. Now before you start to place the blame on me or any other female with similar claims, I can assure you that I usually rocking some casual business wear and not some booty short crop top ensemble. Why do I dress like I’m going to the office when I am my own boss? Because I am a Girl Boss! (In a very Boys world).

GirlBoss

“OKAY So if it’s such a Boys world and you want people to take you seriously… why did you put ‘Girl Boss’ on your business cards?”

– Said No One Ever

Alright, so nobody said those exact words but a few of my closer male friends including my boyfriend have politely inquired and asked me if I was seriously going to put that on my business cards. And I am sure plenty of people think it. I was and still am serious. Why? Because lets be real:

  • I am 25 (strike 1)
  • I am a girl (Double Strike 2)
  • I have the audacity to start my own company (strike 3)
  • My company mission is Socially Conscious (Why are you even still swinging you are already out.)

And much to my own dismay, that my friends is exactly why nobody would take me seriously if I put:

Constance Palelei- CEO

Constance Palelei- President

Constance Palelei- Principle

Or whatever other fancy titles you can think of, that in my opinion people over use anyways (No seriously, check out Linkedin, it seems like everyone and their freaking chihuahua is the president or vice president of something or other.) Who would really take me seriously?

So rather than fighting the current, I chose to smile, ride the wave of condescension and build a name that nobody forgets. After all ‘Coco’ began as a  name that  patronizingly referenced her bar songstress past and she grew it to one of the most recognized brands in the world. (CoCo Chanel…. if you weren’t on the same page.)

Aside from the general cheekiness (which I always appreciate) there have been other benefits to the adopted job title/life decision. There is a sense of instant camaraderie from other women with similar experiences.

I recently started working with a female jeweler on 47th who came out to look at my job request and when she saw my card. she said, “I can’t tell you haw many times men come in here and ask me to speak to the boss. And I say ‘I am the boss’.” She addresses my returned jobs to: Constance P.- “The GIRL BOSS” and I have her in my phone as: Aimee- Boss Lady Jeweler.


My now attorney who also happens to be under 30, own her own practice and be very very pretty, shared with me that at an attorney’s networking event a man came up to her and asked if she had been invited by someone. When she replied yes he then proceeded to ask her if she was thinking about attending law school. As she informed him, “No, I am a practicing attorney.”

He proceeded to make the “Aww…” sort of sound people googoo gaga at babies and puppies and then follow up with “That’s cute!”


……… Obviously, it is not a completely unique experience to the jewelry world. However, I know have heard some real winners. What’s your Girl Boss in a Boys Club story?

*Oh yeah and if you haven’t read #GIRLBOSS yet…. Do it now. For Real.

Twerkin Gems

Okay so they don’t actually have to be real gems, but props if they are!

Now I have never particularly been the (Pardon French about to escape these keys)

twerkhoopsmiley-cyrus1“Face down,

A$$ up,

Booty jiggling up out your jeans…”

-Ludacris

kind of girl….. but if you are a Twerkalicous little Kitty… Hey Girl Hey, no judgments here…… but for Godsake Girl get your bling right!

 

Here are the redeeming Bling essentials for that #TwerkLife:

1.) At least one multi finger ring: preferably one that says something like “Werk” or “YOLO”, Sure there are classy multi-finger rings but if your going to #beaboutthatlife, PLEASE fully commit!

Multi-Finger Word Ring

 

2.) A slave bracelet… either doubled with your multi-finger ring or on the other hand! That’s why you have two hands, duh. (no but really I ma actually obsessed and trying to figure out which stones to use in mine bc I really think they are a must… twerking or no.)

3.) A name plate. A BIG name plate!!!

The Nickname PlateThe Name Plate

4.) Giant Hoops, preferably the kind that tell everyone what nickname you like to go by or who you plan to vote for or just GIANT no you’re not thinking big enough still GIANT HOOPS. (Did anyone else grow up in a neighborhood where the saying was “bigger the hoop, bigger the hoe?”—- No Girl on Girl crime here just question….)

GIANT hoopsElection Hoops

 

5.) A Grill. So Def a grill…..

6.) Big Chains

7.) Body Chains.

The Body Chain

8.) a Hand Cuff (not the kind the police use…. although that may or may not be a part of “that life” I don’t really know.) Less confusingly known as a Palm Cuff.

9.) Claws. Diamond Claws.

Sparkle Claws

10.) more. More. MORE. Because MORE IS MORE.

Whatever your lifestyle choices are… I love you…

Just don’t ever forget to “Shine Bright like a Diamond” Open-mouthed smile

“I want to be the Pretty Tiara Girl!”

Constance Finally Gets her Tiara!

Constance Finally Gets her Tiara!

[Disclaimer: I am attempting to break my bad habit of writing posts and then waiting to re-look at them and edit them until the content is so old it is no longer relevant. That said I have decided to put myself on a time limit and simply submit my post to you all with no editing. very little editing.]

Like most girls, I have had an affinity for tiaras since as long as I can remember. However, the idea of having to marry someone (since obviously I already missed the whole be-born-into-a-royal-family boat) did not ever sit well with me. :/

So instead I decided to enter beauty pageants because I like many other young women I wanted a tiara that basically says “I’m Pretty!”

Unfortunately, I never win or even place in these things because who really knows how to actually be the prettiest girl in the room. It’s probably part luck and part… I don’t know something I obviously didn’t have any of the times I tried. The point is one day while I was pouting my sister reminded me that I am a Jewelry Designer and can always just design my own tiara, just like she did for a class project (I swear my sister is part 11 = part genius!) So I did, for Femme Luxe and it will be available for sale in Canada this week. 🙂

The Shopping Channel

Tiara for Femme Luxe Fine Jewelry

Tiara for Femme Luxe Fine Jewelry

Check out my sisters Crown she made for a class project using aluminum foil, cardboard and broken jewelry!

#ShesOnly11 #Genius

My sister is an 11 yeasr old Boss!

My sister is an 11 yeasr old Boss!

#GirlBoss

#GirlBoss